Comparison

Comparison of self to others is death.

No comparison is even fair or truly applicable. Your life is completely original. No one else has, nor will, live your unique set of gifts and challenges.

If you see a quality or an achievement of another that you aspire to, then you may be grateful for receiving that example in your life and begin cultivate the energies required to realize it for yourself. But first realize that you already are complete. The journey is complete before it began. Enjoy the ride.

Freedom

It's not mine, but I make it mine when I judge it.

My power is in love, in choosing love; for love accepts all, and is completely unaffected by anything that is not love.

Judgement is wishing that something were other than it is. This habit is enabled by forgetting that I have the choice to embody love. To embrace the undesirable with full acceptance and allow it to be. Then there is no reactive pushing away, nor addictive grasping, just flow with what is. Uninhibited flow... 
Yes, that sounds nice :)

Breath

When healing through breathwork I am reminded that the strength of focus is the main determining factor in healing and shifting reality to a higher vibration.

"The problem cannot be solved with a mind that is on the same level as the problem"

Substitute problem for something more new-agey if it serves :)

Stay Open

Relationships are a powerful tool for awakening

It is easier to see unconsciousness when it is not your own.

Your painbody/fear/darkness/negative associations are life energy that has separated from the totality of your being.
These separations are created by negative experiences that we were unable to process with love and understanding at the time they occurred. They are stored in your energies and can be activated when we are faced with experiences of a similar vibration. This is where re-activity comes from.

Due to the nature of these separations; being unconscious, negative in feeling, dis-empowering and painful we may experience aversion in facing them.

So as your partner sees your patterns of unconsciousness you may become triggered. If they are conscious enough to see the darkness without reacting or judging or wanting to change it, if they are able to just observe it with love and understanding (how i define "holding space") you will be given a wonderful opportunity to grow into the awareness yourself. This still requires your willingness to see. If they are reactive and judgmental you still have a wonderful opportunity to see what inside you is triggering them and how and why it is all there. Let the grace of observation move you into dis-identifying with these patterns.

Conscious observation with the fullness of your spiritual maturity and integrity can unravel any knot, can shine through any darkness. Be willing, Be Open.