Relationships are a powerful tool for awakening
It is easier to see unconsciousness when it is not your own.
Your painbody/fear/darkness/negative associations are life energy that has separated from the totality of your being.
These
separations are created by negative experiences that we were unable to
process with love and understanding at the time they occurred. They are
stored in your energies and can be activated when we are faced with
experiences of a similar vibration. This is where re-activity comes
from.
Due
to the nature of these separations; being unconscious, negative in
feeling, dis-empowering and painful we may experience aversion in facing
them.
So
as your partner sees your patterns of unconsciousness you may become
triggered. If they are conscious enough to see the darkness without
reacting or judging or wanting to change it, if they are able to just
observe it with love and understanding (how i define "holding space")
you will be given a wonderful opportunity to grow into the awareness
yourself. This still requires your willingness to see. If they are
reactive and judgmental you still have a wonderful opportunity to see
what inside you is triggering them and how and why it is all there. Let
the grace of observation move you into dis-identifying with these
patterns.
Conscious
observation with the fullness of your spiritual maturity and integrity
can unravel any knot, can shine through any darkness. Be willing, Be
Open.